It was a powerful event yesterday taking social media by storm. A young man pleading with a judge to hug a woman convicted for killing his brother. He said “he was only speaking for himself and hoped she would find in a higher power”. It was a true testament to what forgiveness truly is. He truly was living his faith.
Of course, many people say that they would not be able to do that. They would use the hate and anger to force themselves to go on. There are strong cases to be made on both sides. Neither side is right nor wrong. We need to look at forgiveness as the same way we look at grieving.
The forgiveness process is about not letting the situation hold you down anymore. You do not need to do it for the other person. You need to do it for you and on your time. Some people do it in a letter. Some people do it face to face. Others do it in a therapist’s office. There is something about saying those words “I FORGIVE YOU”. We all have someone who did something to hurt us. We can carry around the burden and the hate. We can carry around forgiveness and love.
We can not judge a person for forgiving on his or her terms. We can only embrace the person who we want to forgive. Until we can share our own forgiveness with others, then we are truly being free from the hurt. Forgiveness allows us to become better people. It allows us to always seek the good in others.
We all need to learn how forgiveness is possible.